Swiping with Strategy: Brad's Journey from Dating Fatigue to Efficient Romance
In today's digital age, finding love can often feel like a full-time job, especially for those already juggling multiple responsibilities. Enter Brad: a single dad, swamped professional, and a frustrated online dater on the brink of giving up. Journey with us as we delve into Brad's transformative experience after attending a singles event and subsequently entrusting his dating life to expert hands. This narrative sheds light on the challenges of modern dating and offers actionable insights on streamlining the process, ensuring you're not just swiping, but swiping with strategy. Whether you're knee-deep in the dating game or just starting out, discover how a little guidance can go a long way. And remember, love might be just a swipe away – if you do it right.
When I first started working with Brad he was in a mental space where he felt very frustrated with his dating life. He was a single dad, a busy professional and wanted to meet someone great... but he had limited time. He had been online dating for a year and a half, off and on, although was never consistent about it. Once his son had gone to bed in the evenings, he'd spend a few hours at night checking his Bumble and Tinder account but he'd quickly grow overwhelmed. While he wanted to make finding love a priority for himself, his other obligations took precedence. The last thing he wanted to do was sit there on his phone trying to weed out potential candidates. The back and forth that online dating entails felt like a second job to him and, frankly, he wasn't that motivated to do it.
After meeting Brad at one of my singles events, I took over his online dating apps at the end of May and it's now mid-August and he's well on his way! I sent him out with 4 dates within the first month and a half of working with him and he just went on his twelfth date with a woman named Jessica! The formula is simple but it's easy to lose sight when you're doing it for yourself. First things first, remain consistent. Similar to losing weight, it's about sticking to a "diet" or system. Create a system for yourself that works. Dedicate one hour a day to the apps. No more and no less. And when you're doing it, do it tight and right. Don't spend too much time engaging with someone until you actually meet them in person. Our Matchmakers at Executive Connections Dating has a rule of thumb when it comes to engaging with someone. After three or four exchanges back and forth, if there still isn't a first date in the works, move on. One of the many obstacles of online dating is the absolute time suck that it can become. Don't get caught up conversing with fake profiles. This is something that happens to both men and women of all age groups. It should not take a month of talking to someone before they ask you on a date. If someone isn't making a move to meet within the first week that's a red flag (I'll get into why that's a red flag on my next blog). The reason why Brad was so successful right away is because I made the whole process much more efficient for him. There are some really great people online, so don't give up on the process. Just streamline it. Or use a local Matchmaker :)
